Saturday, January 14, 2012

No more plans, no more goals

Pin It Setting goals does not work for me.  I've come to realize this.  Anytime a goal is set for me (whether by myself, my family or my WW leader) I fail miserably.  I am hereby withdrawing my goal of getting to goal by V-Day.  I don't understand why this happens.  Occasionally I know it's self-sabotage, but for the most-part, I do all the right things to get to these goals and I never achieve them.  I am great at setting and meeting (or exceeding) goals in my professional life, but for some reason in my personal life...not so much.

So, for those of you out there who tell me I'll get to goal by a certain date or that I'll lose a certain amount of weight this week, please don't.  Please don't put that pressure on me.  I know you mean well and only want the very best for me (and I love you all for that!!!), but it really does not help me in this process.  I ask that you do this for me.  I thank you for respecting my wishes on this matter.  Please don't stop encouraging me, but let's leave dates and deadlines out of the equation.

Obviously the way I have been doing things with the WW program are no longer working for me.  I get all of my healthy guidelines, I earn an average of 35-40 activity points per week, I eat 2/3 or so of my weekly 49 points (more or less, depending on how hungry I am...I don't deprive myself - if I'm hungry, I eat).  I am re-thinking things.  Some have suggested that maybe I'm doing too much exercise.  I highly doubt that - I only workout maybe 4 times a week, but those are high intensity workouts. I take at least 2 days a week off.  I could maybe see if I were maintaining, then the workouts could be to blame (gaining muscle), but I've had 2 significant gains in the past three weeks - I highly doubt I've gained nearly 6 pounds of muscle in three weeks.  Some have suggested I am not eating enough.  In all honesty, I eat when I'm hungry.  I don't tend to eat my activity points, but that's only because I don't usually even get through my weekly points.  If this week I'm hungry enough to eat my weekly points and dip into my exercise points, then so be it - I will. 

I know my title said no plans and no goals...but I am going to try one plan this week (although I'm not setting any goals, other than living through the week!).  This week I am going to try to eliminate artificial sweeteners from my diet.  I don't eat a lot of artificial sweeteners, but I have a friend whose body reacts negatively to them and she suggested that this may be part of the problem.  So I'll give it a try.  Without any expectations.

That's it.  Nothing left to say this week folks.  Sorry for the bummer post, but I'm feeling a bit bummed.  Like I said to a friend today, if I could pinpoint some reason as to why I'm gaining (maybe I don't measure and weigh my food...but I do; maybe I don't workout...but I do; maybe I cheat...but I don't), then I could accept this more readily.  I guess I'm a bit of an analytical person - I need to know the REASON why things happen.  There HAS to be a reason...

5 comments:

Carbie Girl said...

There definitely has to be a reason and concerning the human body it can be a number of things. I hope you find what it is thats keeping you from breaking through it! Im not a fan of goals and deadlines. It goes without saying we all have goals but the deadlines can play evil mindgames on some of us. This is the first time Im on a journey without the stress of deadlines and its my most successful run yet. We all gotta find what works best for us and sometimes that means changing it up <3

Anonymous said...

Hey there... well, I feel your pain. Although I'm no where close to goal, I've had a hellish week. Unlike you however, I have not been doing all the right things - I did manage to keep moving though. I want to thank you for this very real, very human post today. To see you so successful and still have these moments makes me realize this is all a part of the journey and there are tough times still ahead. Keep at it ... You will get to goal when it's time; you are very close. Thank you for inspiring me.

Tanya said...

So true Carbie Girl...

Anonymous - thank you. I've had folks tell me that they didn't think I told the "whole story" on my blog...maybe I do tend to sugar coat things...I can tell you that I didn't sugar coat this one for sure! I am trying to be more transparent so that people realize it's not "just them" who has these feelings....

Kim said...

I've been so swamped at work for the past month that I haven't had a chance to check on you. I'm so glad I did today. I'm feeling a bit discouraged as well and have been struggling with the whole idea of goal setting and the disappointment that comes with not meeting them. Hang in there. Those of us who are on this journey with you understand the ups and downs.

I can say for sure that sometimes, regardless of how spot on we are, the scale doesn't reflect it for whatever reason. And it sucks. My nutritionist stresses over and over that especially women have all kinds of hormone issues going on. But it sucks and I hate when I gain. It's discouraging. I've been bouncing around for the past 3 months. Hang in there my friend.

Tanya said...

Thanks Kim - you hang in there too!!!